Shamu

•December 12, 2011 • 2 Comments

4fb08e3db24ac85fa002b6afdbd9acff By Jason Glaze
Every year my parents treat us to a vacation.  Normally we wait until the kids are out of school for the summer and go to the beach, but in 2008 we decided to change things up a bit and go to Orlando for spring break.

It was day one of our vacation and Sea World was on the agenda.  We arrived at the park early to avoid the long line at the gates.  When we got inside the park we asked the kids what they wanted to see first and their answer was unanimous, Shamu!  So we found out when the first show was and hurried to get good seats.

As we settled into our seats I could see the excitement building in my kids.  As the whales began to come out the constant question from the kids was, “Is that one Shamu?  Is that one Shamu?”  They were impressed with all the younger whales and their performances but they were not going to be satisfied until they saw Shamu herself.

Finally it was time.  The dramatic music began to build as this enormous black object slowly glided around the bottom of the deep pool.  I was sitting in the row behind Kim and the kids hoping to catch some good video footage of my kids reaction as Shamu came up out of the water.  Shamu came racing to the surface.  My kids were on the edge of their seats and as she exploded up out of the water everyone erupted in a loud cheer.  That is everyone except my youngest son Will.

Will was sitting in Kim’s lap and when he got a good look at Shamu he immediately wrapped his arms around Kim’s neck, laid his head on her shoulder and began to cry.  At first I was confused.  I thought perhaps the sheer size of Shamu had startled Will and he was scared.  However the more I looked at Will’s face the more I could see that Will was not scared, Will was sad.  So I got Kim’s attention and asked her what was wrong and she whispered, Shamu’s fin.

When a Killer Whale is taken out of it’s natural environment, over time it’s dorsal fin begins to flop over to one side instead of standing straight up.  Some people say this happens because whales in captivity spend so much time at the surface that there is not enough water to hold the fin up, others say it has something to do with the change in the whale’s diet.  While there are many opinions on why a whale’s fin flops the only opinion that mattered to me was Will’s, and in his heart Shamu’s fin was flopped over because she was being held captive and she was sad.  It broke my heart to see my six year old boy hurting like that, however, I was also very proud of him.

We can look in someone’s eyes and see pain, and if we look in the mirror long enough, we may see our own pain.  Find a mirror and look into your own eyes until you see your soul and ask yourself, Has my fin flopped?  Am I being held captive by pain, pride, or addiction?  If so please know that there are people in this world with hearts like Will’s, people who will not judge you rather with a compassionate heart help you encounter the One who can set you free from what hold’s you captive.  You are not alone.

Peace,

Jason

New Name Blog

Leave Me Alone

•May 9, 2011 • 2 Comments

4fb08e3db24ac85fa002b6afdbd9acff By Jason Glaze

I wrote this poem during a season of life when God was wanting me to deal with some things I was avoiding.  Give it a read and see if you’ve ever been there, or maybe you are there now.

Leave me alone

You are constantly wanting to talk about the things that I’m trying my best to ignore, so leave me alone.

I dread the mornings because you are in my ear as quick as my feet hit the floor, so leave me alone.

When the stillness of the night comes your invitation into the conversation is like torture on my brain, so leave me alone.

I’m sick to death of the confusion, the pressure, the stress, and the pain, so once and for all, leave me alone.

Wait a minute.  If you quit talking to me I will surely stay the way I am.  Please don’t leave me alone.

The more I think about it, if you become silent I’m left with my pitiful plan.  I beg you, please don’t leave me alone.

If you leave me to myself my greatest fear will become my reality, I will truly be on my own.  So please Father never, ever, leave me alone.

Jason

New Name Blog

Rest

•March 10, 2011 • 1 Comment

4fb08e3db24ac85fa002b6afdbd9acff By Jason Glaze

It really doesn’t matter if you read the creation story and take everything literally, or believe the story was written in poetic form, we all must admit that things were done in somewhat of an order.  Having said that, I believe there is much to learn as we ponder on the order in which God created everything.

God created man on the sixth day which means that man’s first full day on earth was the seventh which we all know is a day of rest.  So man’s first full day on earth was a day of rest.

When we think of resting we usually think of resting from something.  This is how we live our lives.  We work all day, run ourselves crazy from here to there, then catch ourselves saying something like, “I need a rest from all this business.“  For most people rest seems to be an after thought that hits them upside the head after exhaustion has kicked their butt. 

What if we have it backwards?  Is it possible that rest needs to come first so we can live our lives from a position of rest?  Or should wear ourselves out until we collapse into a position of rest?  How different would our lives be if we lived our lives in the order of creation?

Peace,

Jason

New Name Blog

Plan

•February 21, 2011 • 6 Comments

94d926eb31bd591770bcb428cc8279b0 By Jeremy Glaze

“What is the plan for my life?”

This is a question that I have asked myself a million times. We all want a plan for our life to make sure we are going to get from point A to point B without wasting a moment. If you are anything like me, you spend way too much time thinking about this plan.

As a Christ follower, I have realized that my plan is not the best plan. So I ask God what is His plan for my life. I usually change the word “plan” to “will”. So instead of asking myself a million times, I am now asking God a million times, “What is your will for my life?” Basically, I am asking God “where am I going and how am I going to get there?”

I am constantly trying to figure out His answer. Am I living in the right area, do I have the right job, am I going to the right church, am I giving to the right organization, am I volunteering at the right places, etc…? In every major part of life I am asking “is this God’s will?”

I know that I should always seek God’s will, but I believe I have been going about it in the wrong way.

Since then, you have been raised with Christ, set your hearts on things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things. For you died, and your life is now hidden with Christ in God. When Christ, who is your life, appears, then you also will appear with Him in glory (Colossians 3: 1-4).

I have been making it way too difficult. When in reality, this is how the conversation goes:

Me: “God, what is your plan for my life?”
God: “I am your life.”

What’s left to figure out?

I had been setting my mind on earthly things while trying to incorporate God in these things. When instead, I should set my mind on things above, and incoorperate the earthly things in this mind set. Where ever I live, work, and play, my mind needs to be set on God as my life. Then let these other things fall into place.

So now saying “your will be done” is the exact same thing as saying “be my life”. Be my all, be my every thing.

Jeremy Glaze

New Name Blog

Value

•February 2, 2011 • 3 Comments

4fb08e3db24ac85fa002b6afdbd9acff By Eric Abney

value |ˈvalyoō|

noun

1 the regard that something is held to deserve; the importance or preciousness of something

Value is from the french word: valoir which means: ‘be worth’

“I like strawberry ice cream better than chocolate.”  “No I like chocolate better than strawberry.”

We value things, many things, right down to ice cream flavors.  What is precious to you?  Things that are not of the food nature, but of the nature of life.  What is it that fulfills you?  Chances are that thing or list of things hold great value to you.

I worked a job one time that I had to leave because we valued different things.  I kept wondering why I couldn’t do what it was they wanted me to do.  I also wondered why they didn’t seem to bother as much with the things that bothered me.  We would continually bump heads, until finally one day I realized, we have two different value systems.  In this particular case it wasn’t that one was right and one was wrong.  They were only different.  This difference made all the difference.  I couldn’t continue the job I was performing because it was not as precious to me as it was to my employers.

This job helped me to understand the importance of values.  You live your life based on certain values.  I encourage you to write them down.  When making decisions it is easier when you see your values, see your situation, and you can know if they line up.

How you find out your values is a whole other blog itself.  Let’s just start with the prayer, “Father, show me what is important to you and what is important to me.”

Be Encouraged and Live Adventurously,

-Eric

Somewhere Along the Way

•January 27, 2011 • 2 Comments

4fb08e3db24ac85fa002b6afdbd9acff By Jason Glaze
This one goes out to all the caretakers out there.  You know who you are.  Cheap Trick sings your theme song, I want you to want me, I need you to need me. Your need to be needed has created tension in almost every relationship you have ever had and you still think everything would have been better if the other person would have simply changed.   You live a cycle that leaves you exhausted and bitter.  Here is what the cycle looks like.

You need a needy person in your life because helping needy people makes you feel valuable.  So you focus on this needy person and begin to try to fix their emotions, solve their problems, and anticipate their needs.  You do things for them that they should be doing for themselves and without realizing it you end up helping them stay in the condition they are in.

When the person you are trying to help fails to change in the manner that validates your efforts you then become angry.  You begin to punish the needy person in subtle ways.  You give them the silent treatment, you use guilt hoping they will see that they are not changing in the way you want them to change.  You may even throw God’s name in from time to time to make it sound spiritual.

You eventually become the victim.  You feel trapped, hopeless, and helpless.  You have conversations in your head that sounds something like this, “ I can’t believe after everything I’ve done for him/her they still refuse to change.”

At this point you either double up on your efforts to try harder with this person, or you escape the relationship vowing that you will never try to help anyone ever again.  However, like a moth to a flame, you are drawn to needy people and needy people are drawn to you.  Before you know it you are right back in the cycle with someone else promising yourself that it’s going to be different this time.

Sound familiar?

Here is the good news.  God has given you an authentic heart to help others and He has a calling on your life.  However, somewhere along the way the motivation of your heart to help others has been twisted.  Somewhere along the way you began to feel responsible for other people and guilt became a backdrop to your life.  Somewhere along the way you began to try to feel valuable by helping others.  Somewhere along the way, you lost your way.

It’s time to find your way again, or maybe for the first time.  You can’t do this alone, you need some help, you need some support.  No matter what your head tells you, you are worth it.  You are worth finding the freedom that comes when you are finding your identity in God and God alone.  It may be tough for someone like you to ask for help because you have grown accustom to helping everyone else, but ask for it.  Take that step and find your way.

Peace,

Jason

New Name Blog

Love God and Love Others

•January 25, 2011 • 5 Comments

4fb08e3db24ac85fa002b6afdbd9acff By Eric Abney

I get caught up in the American dream.  Having a nice car, owning a home, and making lots of money.  To these ends I can find myself laboring, and as of lately I have asked myself, “for what?”

What need do I have of a nice car when it’s only purpose is to carry me from point a to point b?  What need do I have to own a home knowing that I really don’t like to clean it or keep it up?  Why make a lot of money?  So I can buy more stuff to store in my garage so that I can show it off to my friends with the exclamation of, “look at this!”

I’m not saying that it is wrong to have any of the things I listed above.  I am saying that I think my priorities are changing, and within that change I am finding that I believe my life may boil down to only two things:  Loving God and Loving Others.

I had to attend the memorial service of a dear friend this past Saturday and I began to think about the end of our lives, the end of my life.  What matters on that day?  It’s not the fact that I raked enough money together to buy a home or collect a bunch of stuff.

In the movie Kingdom of Heaven there is a Latin phrase carved in a post at Balian’s blacksmith shop, “Nemo vir est qui mundum non reddat meliorem” “What man is a man who does not make the world better?”  I think the real question lies in what did I do for my neighbor, what did I do for my community, was the world a better place because I lived in it?  How will those questions be answered?  How are they answered right now?

Be Challenged and Live Adventurously,
-Eric

One Thing I Do

•January 20, 2011 • Leave a Comment

94d926eb31bd591770bcb428cc8279b0 By Jeremy Glaze

I believe the most detrimental after-effect of sin is guilt and shame.  In most cases, the burden of the guilt and shame outweighs and outlasts any practical consequence we have to bear.  After everything is said and done, the debt has been paid, time served, justice given, relationship has been addressed, or all parties move on, the guilt and shame remain.  I still struggle with the guilt of things I did 15 years ago.   I am sure everyone involved has moved on, there are no consequences I’m still facing, everything has been restored, but I still tend to carry the guilt of my past.

In Philippians 3:13, Paul stated “One thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and reaching forward to what lies ahead”

Most of us are familiar with Paul.  We can all agree he was a great man.  He lead the first century Christians, traveled afar to bring the church to the known world, wrote half of the New Testament Bible.  Paul seemed to have it all together.   But still there is a reason he needed to say “you know, there is this one thing I am doing, I am forgetting the past”.

We do not know all the details of Paul’s past, but we do know that before his conversion, his goal was to persecute Christians and destroy the church (Acts 8:3).  There is one incident that we know about that must have caused Paul a great amount of guilt and shame.   Stephen was captured for preaching Jesus, dragged outside the city, and stoned to death.  These men gave their jackets to Paul (at the time his name was Saul) to hold while they threw the stones at Stephen.   Paul approved and supported the murder of Stephen, just because he was spreading the Gospel.  After they killed Stephen, Saul (Paul) went from door to door dragging Christians out of their homes and throwing them in prison. (Acts 7:57 – 8:3)

Now imagine Paul a few years later.  He has changed.  He has been spoken to by Jesus Himself, converted, and called to spread the exact same message that he had Stephen killed for spreading.  He was basically now representing everything that Stephen was murdered for.   So when Paul, now an apostle, thought back to standing their watching in agreement as his guys stoned Stephen to death, I cannot imagine the guilt he felt.   Can you imagine the shame that stirred up in Paul when He was talking about Jesus and somebody said “hey, didn’t you have a guy killed for talking about the same thing that you are now talking about?”  So Paul knew about guilt and shame.

But Paul also had an understanding of Jesus and the redemption that occurred on the Cross.   Paul realized that Jesus took these sins upon himself and died to pay for these sins.  Jesus took the blame for everything Paul did, even the murder of Stephen.  So he could move on, forget the past, and press forward to what lies ahead.  Jesus paid it all.  Paul’s sins, my sins, and your sins.  So why do we still carry the burden of a debt that has already been paid for?

I am not trying to  diminish the wrong I have done, or the wrong you may have done.  That is not it at all.  I am trying to express the power of the amazing love and mercy that God showed to us on that day at the Cross of Jesus.

As Jason stated in the previous post, a sacrifice was made, blood was spilled, and God covered our shame.

Let’s put the past behind us, and reach forward to what lies ahead.

Jeremy Glaze

New Name Blog

Snuggle Up

•January 10, 2011 • 7 Comments

4fb08e3db24ac85fa002b6afdbd9acff By Jason Glaze

They had it good, really good.  They felt loved, accepted, valuable, safe, and free.  Their union with God was experienced at a level that you and I can’t imagine.  Then it happened.  Adam was passive, Eve was deceived, and they decided to try to be their own gods.

They instantly felt shame so they ran and hid.  The shame was too much to bear so they went to work sewing fig leaves to try to deal with it.  They worked hard trying to make the feeling of shame disappear.  They wanted it to go away as quickly as it came.

Then… He came walking in the cool of the day.  The One that made them came.  He was pursuing them.  He knew their efforts to cover their own shame would never work.  He knew they needed to hear from Him.  He said many things that day.  He addressed the one that deceived them.  He told them that He was adding conflict to all of the things that He knew they would turn to instead of Him.  He drove them far away from the tree of life because He was not going to risk them eating of it and eternally living in their fallen state, never being rescued by death.  However, when it came to their shame He really didn’t use words, He used imagery to communicate His message, and His message was not only for them, it is for you, it is for me.

The Lord God made garments of skin for Adam and his wife and clothed them.  He was telling them that no matter how hard they worked on their own fig leaves, their work would never be enough to cover their shame.  He had to do it.  A sacrifice must be made, blood must be spilled, and it’s by His work that they would feel loved and safe again.  I can only imagine what Adam and Eve must have felt as their Father wrapped them up with the work of His own hands.

How are you trying to cover your shame?  Are you trying to be the best husband, mom, or Christian that you can possibly be, hoping that you will feel less shame?  I can tell you this, your fig leaves will never bring you to that place you are searching for.  The One that made you loves you too much to ever let that happen.  He has a message for you.  A sacrifice has been made, blood has been spilled, and He has done all that it takes for your shame to be dealt with, once and for all.

Listen to Him as He tells you that He has arranged things so that everything you are turning to other than Him will always leave you feeling undone.  Then let Him wrap you up with what He has done.  Snuggle up with the one who has clothed you with Himself, inside and out.

Peace

Jason

New Name Blog

Back Problems

•December 14, 2010 • 8 Comments

4fb08e3db24ac85fa002b6afdbd9acff By Jason Glaze

Anyone who really knows me is well aware that I have screwed my life up more than once.  I’ve made many mistakes that have caused myself and others pain.  It’s not something I’m proud of and I don’t wear my sin on my sleeve like a badge.  However as I experience life with God, from time to time I feel like sharing things I experience with Him hoping that what I’m going through can bring hope to someone else.

I recently experienced something that created a huge shift in my heart.  It may sound simple, but for me it was life changing.  I recently realized that I had back problems.  When I say I had back problems, what I mean is without even really realizing it I had been trying to get back some things I’ve lost around five years ago.  Things such as peace, love, stillness, rest, connection with God, etc.

Now don’t get me wrong, over the past five years I have had peace with God but I had been trying to get back the type of peace I used to have.  I have experienced God’s love but I had been trying to get back the feeling of love that I use to have.  I have experienced stillness and rest but I had been trying to duplicate the type of stillness and rest that I use to have.  In the past five years I have been connected with God but I had been trying to get back the particular type of connection that I use to have.  Do you get what I’m saying? Back problems.

A couple of months ago I felt myself beginning to feel tired and a bit hopeless as I struggled to re-create the things I use to experience with God.  Then one day I believe Jesus whispered to my heart, “Jason, I don’t want you to try to get back what you think you have lost, I have been making all things new.”  The freedom that those words has brought to me is indescribable.  I had been all bound up because I had been trying to give CPR to a life that God wanted dead.   I knew what I had to do, I had to let it die.  I even had a funeral, I even grieved a little.

Today my back problems are gone and I’m resting in the reality that Jesus has made, and is making all things new.  The daily freshness of God’s presence is like a new vase full of beautiful flowers that is at my bed side every morning, and I can enjoy Him because I know that new flowers will be there the next day.  He is making all things new.

Have you grown tired of trying to get back what you’ve lost?  Maybe it’s time to let it die as Jesus makes all things new.

 

Peace,

 Jason

New Name Blog

A Little at a Time and You Eat the Whole Thing

•December 9, 2010 • 1 Comment

4fb08e3db24ac85fa002b6afdbd9acff By Eric Abney
I was eating at a “Five Guys” in Dawsonville the other day.  Yeah, it was good.  A nice burger with a massive amount of fries.  I was dipping my fries into this amazing vinegar and then into the ketchup and then into my mouth.  I had a thought in the middle of all this fried goodness, “What if I drank the cup of ketchup by itself?”  Then I thought, “That’s gross.”  We would never drink an entire cup of ketchup, but when I’m done with my fries all of the ketchup in the cup is gone.  Which only means that I had to have eaten it all! 

This works out in our lives in other ways also.  We would never dive off the deep end and not seek God’s ways anymore or do something to our bodies that would hurt us forever.  I think sometimes we might do things like this and others almost unknowingly.  It is served to us a little bit at a time with something else that we accept.  Just like the ketchup.  I wouldn’t drink a cup of ketchup by itself but I will with fries. 

Is there something that you are involved in that is mostly good, but there is still a little part that isn’t right?  If a little part isn’t right, does it make the whole thing wrong?  Is it hurting you or others in the long run?  It’s something to think about.

 
Be Challenged and Live Adventurously, 
 
-Eric

Scars

•December 2, 2010 • 2 Comments

94d926eb31bd591770bcb428cc8279b0 By Jeremy Glaze

Scar (skär) n. 1 -a mark left on the skin or other tissue after the wound, burn, etc. has healed; (Websters New World Dictionary).

We are very familiar with scars.  Most of us have one or more scars on our body to reference.  Scars can serve as a reminder of or a lesson learned from an action or procedure that caused pain on our bodies.  As the definition states, a scar is mark left after the wound has healed, or after the pain is gone.  Scars serve a purpose.

When the disciple Thomas heard that Jesus had resurrected, he stated “Unless I see the nail marks in His hands and put my finger where the nails were, and put my hand and into His side, I will not believe” (John 20:25).  And when Jesus came to Thomas a week later, He granted his wish.  Jesus said “Put your finger here; see my hands. reach out your hand and put it into my side.  Stop doubting and believe” (John 20:27).

Why did Jesus still have the holes in His hands and side after the resurrection?  I believe Jesus’ flesh was made new when He arose from the grave.  I don’t think He looked the same as He did when he was placed in the tomb.  His friends never recognized Him at first.  His body was no longer blood stained and bruised from the torment he took at His death.  So why did He still have these significant scars?  His scars served a purpose.  Thomas had to see these scars to believe that his Savior had indeed risen.

His scars were the evidence of the victory that has come.

Now let’s look at ourselves.  Let’s look at the emotional scars that will not go away.  We all have them.  And I bet that most of us view our scars as a reminder of the pain that we once suffered.  The scars may be permanent.  Even if redemption has come, a relationship is reconciled, justice has been served, or forgiveness was given, the scar remains.  Memory keeps it in place.  But it does not have to be a thorn that brings us back to the pain.

Let’s go back to the definition.  A scar is a mark after the wound has healed. Instead of the pain, we can focus on the healing.  The redemption.  No, we may not forget what happened, the people around us may not forget.  But let’s use the scar as evidence that God has resurrected us and made us new.  He has brought us to the other side.  By the His grace we have made it!  Do not try to rip the scar back open to expose the open wound.  Know that the wound is healed.  Just as Jesus did, use the scars so they may believe victory has come.  Whether it is our own belief, or others who were aware of our situation, our scars can be the testimony of healing and redemption.

Scars are the story of the victory that was won.  This was the story with Jesus, and it can be the story with you and me.

Let’s stop doubting and believe!

Jeremy Glaze

New Name Blog

What Kids Need To Hear

•November 16, 2010 • 4 Comments

4fb08e3db24ac85fa002b6afdbd9acff By Jason Glaze

I am not a fan of disclaimers but I’m about to write a blog post where the focus is parenting so I’m going to throw out two disclaimers.

First of all, I am not an expert in parenting.  I’m honestly figuring it out as I go.

Second, I know while you are reading this post there will be a “yeah but” come to mind.  Just hang in there and give what I’m saying some thought.

I often find myself in a conversation with someone who is having problems connecting with their children.  The reasons vary but it’s usually because there is some rebellion going on.  As we begin to talk about a solution, this statement usually comes from the frustrated parent at some point, “I’ve been trying to show my child that I love God and trust that everything else falls into place.”

While this idea sounds noble it really doesn’t do much for the relationship between the parent and child.  Here is my response to that statement.  “Your children need to know that you love them more than they need to know that you love God.”  It never fails, when I say this to a parent I first get a deer in the headlight look for a minute.  Then the truth settles in and begins to pierce the parent’s heart.  There is no doubt that our relationship with God is the most important thing in our lives and everything we do is a byproduct of it.  However our love for God does not automatically communicate our love to our children.  They need to hear it.  They need to connect with us.  It’s easy to hide behind our relationship with God and not give our kids our hearts.

Now, I’m not saying that we need to leave or lessen our love for God in order to connect with our kids.  As a matter of fact the more we love God, or better yet, the more we know God loves us, the easier it will be to put our hearts on the table with our kids.  Here is what I am saying.  What matters is what our kids hear from us, and again, they need to know we love them more than they need to know we love God.

Finally, here is the best part.  The more they know we love them the more they are going to know that God loves them.  Let’s face it, if we are having problems with our kids and we ignore them by hiding behind our love for God, it’s not going to paint a good picture of God in their minds.  However, if they know we love God as we pour out our love on them their love for us and God will begin to grow and flourish.

Peace,

Jason Glaze

New Name Blog

Good Stories

•November 11, 2010 • 2 Comments

4fb08e3db24ac85fa002b6afdbd9acff By Eric Abney

I saw a movie made in the 90’s last night.  It was about a young man who was climbing a mountain and then he was captured and imprisoned.  The movie would have been good if it were about him summiting a mountain, but it was better because is was about him escaping from prison.

Good stories are made of this kind of stuff.  This “stuff” can really be stripped away and look at as hard times.  Hard times make good stories.  Think about your favorite movie.  What happens?  Chances are somebody in the movie has to overcome a major obstacle.  Seeing the person do this is what the movie is about.

I want my life to be a good story and if I desire that then I must be prepared for hard times.  It is the necessary ingredient to making something great.  When I feel pain I am reminded that I can also feel love.  If I choose to not feel all the bad things then I am also choosing to not feel all the good things.

You can make it!  If you are struggling with a hard time remember that this will pass and when it does it makes for great story telling.  It makes a great life.  Embrace your pain, and just feel.

Be Encouraged and Live Adventurously,
-Eric

Flowing

•November 5, 2010 • 2 Comments

94d926eb31bd591770bcb428cc8279b0 By Jeremy Glaze

I believe there is something in us all that desires to be a better person.  This is prominent in my life when it comes to relationships especially.  So much of my thoughts are geared toward the “how to’s” of becoming a better husband and a better father.  It also extends to the other aspects of my life such as becoming a better leader, friend, son, brother, and even a better christian.  We join couples groups to learn more about marriage.  I have read parenting books to become a better father.  I have attended seminars and conferences to become a better leader.  I have changed parts of my lifestyle to become a better christian.  All of these activities may be great and beneficial, but they can also become burdensome real quick.

The problem that I have found is when I focus so much on what to do to become better, it actually can get worse because my frustration sets in when I do not live up to what I believe I should be doing to become better at a particular relationship.  All of these relationships that I am working on become more of a chore than what they were meant to be…  relationships.  The work overcomes the joy.  And we all know that no matter how hard we work at it, we will not be perfect.  And for me, I tend to dwell on my imperfection.

Until one day not long ago while I was reading Proverbs, I melted.
“My Son, give me your heart and let your eyes delight in my ways” (Proverbs 23:26 TNIV)
I just sat there and stared at this verse in awe. “My son, give me your heart”.

This verse spoke to me way out of context.  The rest of the chapter may not have anything to do with what I was thinking about.  But this verse just stood out on the page.  Just give Him my heart.

If I just surrender my heart to God, I can rest in a relationship with Him.  It is not work.  It is not about becoming a better Christian or following rules.  It is falling into the relationship that He has already set.  And every other relationship I have with everyone else will flow from this relationship with God.

If I can feel the grace Jesus has given me, it is easy to show others grace.
If I truly receive His forgiveness, it will be hard not to forgive others.
If I can see the patience He has with me, I can be patient with others.
If I know He accepts me as I am, I will accept others as they are.
If I get that He understands me in my troubles, I will be more understanding of others.
If I realize the unconditional love He has for me, I can easily show love to others.
…and so on and so on…

Whether it is with my family, friends, colleagues, or strangers, these relationships will stem from the relationship I have with my Heavenly Father.  Just like a huge river may feed several lakes along the way, this one relationship will flow into every other relationship along the way.

I love how this version uses the words “let” and “delight” in the next part of this verse.

I took it as “quit working to do it your way, and let your eyes delight in my ways”.

Jeremy Glaze

New Name Blog

Winners

•October 4, 2010 • 4 Comments

4fb08e3db24ac85fa002b6afdbd9acff By Eric Abney

I had the privilege of attending the East Coast Trike-In over labor day weekend.  Hundreds of people brought their motorcycle trikes to Mt. Airy, N.C.  Everyone gathered to admire these beautiful machines that mostly have been built by hand.  As with many car shows and motorcycle events there was a time when everyone gathered to be presented with Awards for best in their class, best of show, and so on and so forth.  During this presentation a couple of interesting things happened.  There were some young men there from a boys home who competed in some field games.  The presenters gave out awards to them.  The boys who won didn’t walk back to their seats, they strutted.  It was time for the best of show award and my Dad won.  Way to go Dad!!!

I watched boys win.  I watched men win.  Every person that won had their moment.  Standing up from their seat, walking across the front of the room, grasping the award in their hand, and then hearing a crowd of people cheer, shout, and clap for them.

I think we want to win because accomplishments can define us.  “I am a triathlete.”  “I am a biker.”  “I am a baseball player.”  “I am an executive business man.”  “I am a construction worker.”  We can win at any one of these things and we will call ourselves, “I am . . .”, but when the applause die down and the crowd goes home the most important thing I can be is God’s child.  “I am God’s son.”  That statement means I am a winner.  It is who I am.  It is who we are.  Without doing anything or achieving anything we are His children.  All we have to do is ask Him.

Rest in being a winner because of who you are in Him and not because of what you do or have done.

Be Challenged and Live Adventurously,

-Eric

 New Name Blog

Gracenomics

•September 30, 2010 • 4 Comments

94d926eb31bd591770bcb428cc8279b0 By Jeremy Glaze

I recently had the opportunity to read an advanced copy of GRACENOMICS by Mike Foster from People of the Second Chance.  This is one of the very few books that I will read over and over while trying to absorb this concept and join the movement.  I highly recommend that you do the same.  Grace is for everyone!

This book takes a brilliant message of Grace and exposes it in such a naked, but radical display.  While turning each page I found myself saying out loud, “this could work, this could actually work”.  I am convinced that if this Grace were to be embraced and applied in our culture, the world would change.

Just in the first couple of pages of explaining the People of the Second Chance, it becomes obvious where our culture has missed it:

 

People of the Second Chance is a movement of people committed to showing unexpected, excessive and scandalous amounts of grace

Together we’re setting out to be the first in line to forgive.
We’re racing to release grudges.
We’re making room for those on life’s margins.
We’re raising our voices for the vulnerable.
We’re accepting the unacceptable.

We’re becoming the Red Cross relief team for the disasters in people’s personal lives.
We’re setting out to be the living, breathing PEZ dispensers of grace for our world.

 

Grace is not just a concept, it is a lifestyle.  And I love the way this book challenges us to apply Grace in all our surroundings.  Whether it is for ourselves, for others, or even our work place, there is always room for Grace. 

While reading GRACENOMICS, it was hard not to fantasize about what this world could be if we embraced Grace as a culture.  I know that may seem far-fetched at the moment, but I believe there is hope.  We are the People of the Second Chance.

The book will be released next week.  It will be available for purchase at Amazon or POTSC.com.

Overthrow Judgement.  Liberate Love,

Jeremy Glaze

New Name Blog

Your Story

•September 21, 2010 • 1 Comment

4fb08e3db24ac85fa002b6afdbd9acff By Jason Glaze

Last Saturday night I was in a leadership meeting and the speaker was talking about how to connect emotionally with people we are leading in our church.  About midway through his talk he made this statement:  “The problem with the Pharisees was not that they did not know, their problem was that they did not feel.”  This statement really got my mind churning.  The Pharisees had an abundance of knowledge, but that knowledge did not help them when it came to embracing the message that Jesus brought.

I believe that one of the reasons that Jesus told so many stories is because he knew that stories stir our emotions.  Keep in mind that story telling was not the only way Jesus communicated, sometimes he just laid the facts out.  However, we can’t deny the fact that Jesus liked to tell stories.  Think about it, we all love stories.  We love movies, novels, we love sitting around telling stories from our past.

Now let’s change gears just a bit.  Have you ever looked at yourself in the mirror and felt like you had know idea who you were staring at?  If so, maybe it’s because you don’t really know your own story.  Sure you know bits and pieces but do you really know your story well?  Could you tell your story in chronological order with detail?

Here is my challenge to you.  Write your story leaving nothing out.  Include all the good times and bad times.  Write about all the pain, all the all joy, everything.  Let the memories come.  Don’t write it with a reader in mind, just write it.  This is for you, so you can embrace your own story.  It’s safe to say that you will feel things that you need to feel and you will walk away feeling more alive than you did before you wrote it.

Peace,

Jason

New Name Blog

Embracing My Neediness

•September 14, 2010 • 2 Comments

4fb08e3db24ac85fa002b6afdbd9acff By Jason Glaze

A few years ago I went on a weekend retreat that was designed for spiritual growth.  In the very first session of the first evening the leader said something that has changed the way I look at God, myself, and my life.  He said, ” Always remember, you are 100% needy 100% of the time, BUT, you are 100% loved by God 100% of the time.

You see I had been trying to convince myself that I was not needy because in my mind needy people were weak.  I believed that strong, mature Christians were not supposed to be needy because all our needs are already met in Christ.  This way of thinking set me up for all kinds of failure.

Embracing my neediness allows me to embrace my brokenness which reminds me of my daily dependence on my God.  If I don’t know I’m needy, I’m not able to receive love.  Learning how to receive love from God is one of the most difficult things we can ever learn how to do.  Receiving God’s love requires knowing we are in need of His love, it requires neediness, it requires brokenness.

Are you trying not to be needy?  Would it help to know that God created you needy?

Allowing yourself to be needy might bring the attitude of dependence and brokenness that you need to receive more of God’s love.

Peace,

Jason

New Name Blog

Crazy Heart

•September 1, 2010 • 2 Comments

4fb08e3db24ac85fa002b6afdbd9acff By Jason Glaze

Last Saturday night Kim and I watched the movie Crazy Heart.  Crazy Heart is a story about a nearly washed up, alcoholic, country music singer whose name is Bad Blake played by Jeff Bridges.  Bad Blake travels around playing gigs in run down bowling alleys and bars.  In the first part of the movie my impression of the character is that he is a man waiting to die.

However, his life begins to look brighter as he falls in love with a woman who wants to interview him for a local column for her small town newspaper.  He takes her out of dates and really begins to bond with her four year old son.  But his alcoholism begins to hinder their relationship and as most of us know who struggle with addiction you can’t have your addiction and happiness at the same time, and the relationship comes crashing down.
At his lowest point, laying on his bed half dead he picks up the phone and calls his friend Wayne played by Robert Duvall and says the words that will alter his life forever.  He says, ” I want to get sober.”

Sometimes we have to loose something or maybe even everything before we want to change.  It doesn’t matter what your struggle is, ask yourself two questions.  What have I lost?  What am I at risk of loosing?  Maybe you haven’t lost tangible things such as family, jobs etc..  But what about the non-tangibles?  Peace, love, integrity, etc….  If you haven’t lost any of these things yet are you at risk of loosing them if you don’t change?  Does the thought of loosing these things make you want to change?

I’ve heard it said that in order for people to change they must hit rock bottom and for some people that might be true.  But picture yourself on and elevator that is on its way down to the bottom floor of life.  You don’t have to wait until it hits bottom.  You can get off the elevator now.
If you want to.

 

Peace,

Jason

New Name Blog

Grace For Me

•August 26, 2010 • Leave a Comment

94d926eb31bd591770bcb428cc8279b0 By Jeremy Glaze

The saving grace of my life has been that my sins are forgiven.  That God sees my life pure and holy through the blood of Jesus.  And though I might stumble and fall everyday, I am able to get right back up and fall into the grace of our God.  I get this.  I have experienced this.

Thankfully, I have applied this to my life.  But a problem that I have had is there have been times where I have applied this only to my life.

There are people who have offended me.  People who have done me wrong.  And there are some people who I just thought they were jerks.  And these people I held offense to.  I did not like them.

As crazy as it may sound, I viewed these people’s offenses different from my own offenses.  I have offended many people, I have done people wrong, and just ask my wife, I can be a jerk.  But again, the saving grace of my life is that my sins have been forgiven.

So who am I to hold a grudge toward people who have committed the exact same offenses that have been forgiven in my life?  Why do I not like someone who is, well, who is like me?

You see, when it came to my screw ups, I wanted grace.  When it was their screw ups, I wanted justice.  That doesn’t make sense.

Did Christ die for me?  Absolutely!  Did Christ die for them?  Of course.

So initially what I was saying to God is: “You gave your only son for them.  Jesus, you gave your life for them.  But that is not good enough for me.”  ”Your blood covered me, don’t let it cover them”.

Gut-wrenching, right?

I said at the beginning “I get it”.  But I didn’t.  I discovered that the true issue was that I did not understand my own forgiveness.  I did not live like I was redeemed.

Let us not hold someone accountable for the same offense that Jesus was held accountable for at His death.

So the next time I refuse to give someone a second chance, I pray that I will quickly remember how many chances I have received.

Jeremy Glaze

New Name Blog

Beating on my High-Chair

•August 16, 2010 • Leave a Comment

4fb08e3db24ac85fa002b6afdbd9acff By Jason Glaze

This verse fascinates me.

Romans 8:7a NASB

because the mind set on the flesh is hostile toward God;

If I set my mind on the flesh, which means to set my mind on getting my needs met my way and in my time, I will become angry at God.  Even if I water it down to say that I’m not angry, I’m frustrated, it makes no difference because the word frustrated seems to simply be the word that good Christians use instead of the word angry.

My flesh is my motivation for living that is in opposition of God’s will for me.  My flesh is my selfishness, my self-centeredness that says my life is about me and what I want and what I don’t want.  Whether I use the exact words or not, my flesh tells God that He should give me this or that, or He should not have let that happen.

If this is my mind set, I end up acting like a ticked off toddler beating on his high chair because mom and dad will not give me what I want.

Because the mind set on the flesh in hostile toward God.

Verse 6 of the same chapter says.  For the mind set on the flesh is death but the mind set on the Spirit is life and peace.  So it seems I have a choice.  Set my mind on the flesh and experience death to mind, emotions, relationships, hopes, dreams, etc…… , or set my mind on the Spirit and experience life and peace.  The life and peace may not come quickly but it will come.  This is not a formula but and invitation to intimacy that develops as our relationship with God deepens.

If you are angry about something right now get still and see if you can trace the anger back to an area that your mind is set of your flesh.  Then talk to God about that area until you have surrendered it to Him.

 

Peace,

Jason

New Name Blog

Life in the Hard Places

•August 11, 2010 • 6 Comments

4fb08e3db24ac85fa002b6afdbd9acff By Eric Abney

“I feel as though I am stuck between a rock and a hard place.”  I have said this before.  I have felt this before, and I am betting in some ways you have too.  At least at one time or another in your life.  A friend of mine shared this picture over twitter and it made me think about our lives and how they might get into hard places or how we might feel like we are between a rock and a hard place.  Often times in these places there is such a sense of being overwhelmed.  We might not know what to do or how to get moving from the place we are in to the place where we should be going.

I was rock climbing at Mt. Currahee in Toccoa, GA.  There is one particular climb that has very few holds.  It’s almost like you have to make something out of nothing.  My brother said this, “You have to just inch your way up.”  I thought this was a great realization.  It’s true, I think it may be true also in the hard places.  Let’s be honest, it’s not easy, it doesn’t feel good, and you don’t want to be where you are, but you might just have to “inch your way through it.”

Now, what does that mean?  I think it means do the next right thing.  Whatever the next right thing is for your situation.  I’ll bet we don’t get into hard places overnight, this means we won’t get out of hard places overnight either.

What does the next right thing look like?  I think only you can answer that.  Ask yourself, ask God, and then do it.  I think it’s possible to bloom in the hardest of places.

Be Challenged and Live Adventurously,

-Eric

New Name Blog

A+B=C

•July 23, 2010 • 3 Comments

4fb08e3db24ac85fa002b6afdbd9acff By Jason Glaze

As human beings there is a part of us that loves formulas.  Formulas give us answers which eliminates confusion and causes us to feel like we are in control.  Formulas are reliable which makes us feel safe.  When we are faced with a confusing struggle we go looking for a formula to bring us some relief to the situation.

Formulas within themselves are not bad, but the problems come when we try to use formulas in an attempt to control God.  We learn at an early age that A+B=C, so when we are learning how to pray our mind goes into formula mode.  A (Go to God in Prayer) + B (Ask God a question) = C (God gives us an answer).  While this may be actually what happens from time to time, we can easily begin to rely on the formula and when the formula for prayer doesn’t work we think something must be wrong with us.

As I read the gospels, one thing that really stands out to me about Jesus is He is constantly asking questions. And He often would answer a question with a question.  So if He asked people questions back then, why would we think He would be different today?

Is it possible that we have so programmed ourselves to listen for answers from God that we are missing the questions that he may be asking us?  The great thing about a question is questions create dialog.  When God asks us a question we have the choice to enter into the conversation with God or ignore the question and go on about our day.  Questions create dialog and dialog deepens relationships.

So let’s begin to open ourselves up to the questions that God may be asking us.  Let’s retire the formulas that we have relying on trying to control our relationship with God.  Control and intimacy don’t mix, you can’t have both.  I choose intimacy, how about you?

 

Jason Glaze

New Name Blog

Messy Clay

•July 19, 2010 • 2 Comments

94d926eb31bd591770bcb428cc8279b0 By Jeremy Glaze

“Go down to the potter’s house, and there I will give you my message.”  So I went down to the potter’s house, and I saw him working at the wheel.  But the pot he was shaping from the clay was marred in his hands; so the potter formed it into another pot, shaping it as seemed best to him.  Then the word of the Lord came to me.  He said, “Can I not do with you, house of Israel, as this potter does?” declares the Lord.  “Like clay in the hand of the potter, so are you in my hand.”  Jeremiah 18:2-6

We have heard before that we were created in the image of God.  But I tend to forget that I am still a work in process.  He created me (the clay), and now He is shaping and forming me in His hands.  This is so important for us to remember, especially when we stumble.  There is nothing more frustrating to me than when I come up short or fail in life.  It is always a set back for me where I think I should have to start all over.  When I fall, I start doubting that my relationship with God was ever as I thought it was.

But it is such a freedom to realize that the times I fail, the clay just got a little messy.  But it is still in the Potter’s hands, and He is still molding it into a beautiful piece.  The Potter did not get frusterated as I did.  He did not have to start over.  He did not skip a beat.  He just let the messy part of the clay flow through His hands as He is shaping it as seemed best to him.

So let’s stay in His hands, be moldable, and trust Him that He is shaping us as it seems best to Him.

Jeremy Glaze

New Name Blog

 
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